Posted by annierose on March 30, 2006, at 17:08:35
In reply to Re: Heretical thought, posted by Dinah on March 30, 2006, at 16:46:55
I understand what you are saying. But I believe this is where the skills of the therapist come into play. Now that the client is securely attached, how can the T work with that attachment, within all the ups and downs, and bring the client out to the "other side" (so to speak) --- feeling it's okay to say goodbye.
When I'm going through a down period, I can't imagine how I will terminate this relationship. And when I'm feeling good, and all is well with the world (or at least my little part), I see that I will be okay. I will miss our conversations, her questions, her take on any given situation --- that connection. I now see how she is helping me build that type of bond/closeness with my husband and children. And I can see an end, and it doesn't scare me, at least this week. And termination is off in the distance.
When I was struggling with therapy a few weeks back, my T asked me to dump it all on her lap. That it was her job to sort it all out for me. And I was to bring her all my feelings. That I didn't need to think about therapy all the time. That I could rest my worries until the next time we met. It was a light bulb moment for me. Yes, I still think of therapy. But some of the worry has lifted. I don't have to carry it around anymore.
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