Posted by Dinah on March 30, 2006, at 16:46:55
In reply to Re: Heretical thought, posted by happyflower on March 30, 2006, at 15:02:55
I think, to flesh out my still forming thought, that therapy has effects on the human heart that they just haven't taken into consideration. Yes, it changes our ways of thinking, yes, it improves our lives. But once it touches our hearts, is it prepared to deal with that? Is therapy prepared to deal with the side effects of love?
When you love someone, is it ever ok to lose them? Yes, it happens. Our moms and dads die. Our lovers and spouses leave us. But do we ever really get over that? I know I think of Daddy most days. I know I think of other loved ones most days. And those were relationships that ended with death. A relationship where the other person is still there, but unreachable...
And is it really good for us to be put in that situation?
I always thought I was ok. I didn't want any more from my therapist than I had. I didn't want more than two hours a week in an office. I didn't want to be in his "real" life. But I wanted him in my life. I thought I was ok. I thought I wouldn't be hurt.
I had a family that I valued. That's where my real life took place. Therapy was a part of my life, but a set-aside part. How could it hurt me?
But I'm hurt. And now I really understand the large number of people who have described how hurt they've been. And so many continue to hurt long after the therapy is over. And I understand how reading here can hurt. It can even hurt to read about therapists' vacations, because I remember when I was upset about my therapist's vacation.
How can this be a good thing? How can anything that touches the heart then leaves it bruised and battered be a good thing?
poster:Dinah
thread:626600
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