Posted by Dinah on December 2, 2005, at 10:28:29
In reply to Question to ponder, posted by annierose on November 30, 2005, at 17:23:14
I don't think I can answer. I was extremely attached to my parents, but not in a healthy way. Enmeshed.
But I think it's still possible. In my case, my therapist gave me something I'd never had before in my life. Because I never had it in my life, I assume it's rare and hard to come by. And if it's rare and hard to come by, I want to cling tightly and I'm terrified of losing it.
Oddly enough, now that I've been hurt by my attachment, and the quality he gives me seems even more rare by its lack in other mental health providers, I'm responding by trying as hard as I can to walk away and to not care. Not by clinging more. Ok, I alternate wildly and do both.
poster:Dinah
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