Posted by muffled on November 29, 2005, at 23:16:53
In reply to Re: I'm back, posted by alexandra_k on November 29, 2005, at 22:57:45
if she has a 'mean streak' thats probably her hurts... and sometimes when people hurt they lash out and so when she is hurting... well, that might be when she lashes out at you.
***Thats good. when she does the all of a sudden mad thing I need to try and figure maybe she's HURT. I'm such a ditz. I will try that next time.
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> and it can be really very hard to be kind and patient with someone who is lashing out...
***Tell me about it. She can e completely and utterly unreasonable.
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> but maybe... thats what she really wants / needs.
***hard to be kind and patient with someone WHO DOESN"T EVEN EXIST!!!!!!!!!!!!!I think thats a stumbling block for me. She's screaming 'I exist', I'm muttering,'your just and ego state or something.' I don't think I really treat her seriously, I do and I don't. Sh*t, this is so freaking NUTS. I am ME, who the f*ck she is, I don't know. Maybe I've been impregnated with an alien worm or something!!!!!!!Wouldn't be any weirder in reality. Sh*t. Sh*t I say.
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> there might be some truth to what she says...
> but maybe she needs to learn something about being more understanding of your perspective / situaiton / feelings etc.
> sometimes it isn't so much WHAT is said but the WAY it is said.
> and if you feel really very hurt in response to what she is saying...
***I'm not hurt, I'm confused and annoyed.> that says more about her (being hurt) than it does baout you (because she has found some truth about you)
***God, I don't want her to exist
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> it can be hard to get along...
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> yeah, maybe go for a walk in the forest...
> sometimes a run can vent some of that energy too
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> :-)
Thanks Alex, you're sure smart. I'm just so confused. So freaking confused. I think I'm getting scared too.
Sh*t.
Muffled
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