Posted by Tamar on November 22, 2005, at 17:11:14
In reply to Holy Cow, you got it! » Tamar, posted by muffled on November 21, 2005, at 22:01:45
> ****Tamar, I think you hit the nail on the head. I been patronizing her. She's not stupid. I think she's pretty pissed at me. Not sure what about exactly. Maybe alot of things.
Ooh, I didn’t mean to suggest you’d been patronising her! I think you’ve been very loving towards her. But maybe she’s pissed anyway… just because she’s been hurting for so long and maybe she’s a bit afraid of being loved…
> I been sort of just sidestepping just how her pain is. Not too sure bout that somehow. Guess I'm afraid. Maybe she knows that and that puts her off too.
Don’t be too hard on yourself! It’s OK to be afraid. Why wouldn’t you be afraid? You know she’s hurt and you’re not entirely sure why… that’s scary. But yeah, she knows you’re afraid and she’s a bit afraid too. It’s hard for you and for her to face that fear. If you can find ways to comfort each other in your fear, maybe you can begin to understand each other.
> Guess I just goto keep working on me, and when the time is right she might decide I'm ok and stop hiding. In the meantime I guess I goto be patient.
> Grrrrrrr. Not so good in the patience dept. especially when it comes to myself.Yeah, patience isn’t the easiest. I know that! Keep it very gentle…
> Thanks Tamar, you did it again. I wonder, is it a gift you have?
> Take special care of yourself right now. And thanks for taking care of me too! :)
> I wish I could make you better right now:(
> But I guess these things take time.
> I sit beside you quietly in your sad time.
> Muffled.You’re so sweet Muffled. Thanks for your kind thoughts.
Tamar
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