Posted by Racer on September 11, 2005, at 21:46:33
In reply to Lying Therapist, posted by cricket on September 9, 2005, at 8:49:02
I had a therapist who told me that I was wrong about something so strongly that I stopped eating over it. She was telling me to change my thinking so that I wouldn't feel something, and told me how to do it. I took it that session, but the next session -- once i could feel how much it upset me -- I told her that I didn't think I needed that, that it was too much what I do when I'm in an active anorexic stage and doing my best to suppress my feelings.
She told me that that was because I wasn't doing it right! Totally disregarded what I was telling her.
That was the last time I saw her, despite all my turmoil about firing her. I needed to fire her, I knew I needed to fire her, but I still had all sorts of turmoil about it.
I'm so glad I did! My new therapist specializes in eating disorders, so she understands that I need to learn to experience my emotions, to recognize them and to accept them. The very last thing I need to do is to "change" them through changing my thinking. Maybe if I were more advanced emotionally, but certainly not now.
Sometimes a therapist is just not a good fit, and it sounds as though this one is not a good fit for you. Can you do some therapist shopping and find someone better suited to you and to your needs?
Best luck to you.
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