Posted by Tamar on August 23, 2005, at 20:33:47
In reply to Complete Reversal - Long, posted by cricket on August 23, 2005, at 19:30:31
I’m glad it was better, even if it was still a little strange.
It’s interesting (and, I think, a very positive thing) that he said he doesn’t want to do something that makes the little girl go away. And I think it’s good that he said it’s time to get real. But, of course, getting real involves a lot of trust.
However, I still have the sense (from what you said) that he’s holding back a little. Maybe part of it is that he doesn’t want to scare the little girl. And I wonder if another part of the equation is that he wants to take time to make sure he’s ready. Maybe he’s both excited about the potential and a little anxious about what it will mean for your therapy. I suspect he knows he’ll have to be very careful with the little girl. I often think therapy involves trust on both sides, and perhaps he’s trying to be absolutely certain that he trusts you… and that your trust in him won’t be misplaced, when it comes.
> But you would think he would be ready to get the party hat out if I disappear.
I think he would get the party hat out if you can manoeuvre the relationship to a point where you can trust him. It sounds to me as if he’s preparing to take it all to the next level. I imagine that you’re picking up on his anxieties about it. But it seems to me that he’s trying quite hard to make it possible… which should be a good thing, right?
Tamar
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