Posted by Jazzed on June 24, 2005, at 6:43:16
In reply to Re: Why would a T ask these questions? » Jazzed, posted by daisym on June 24, 2005, at 0:30:22
> I want to (gently) tell you that you don't have to defend or prove to us, your babble family, that your therapist is mostly OK. Or keep defending your choice. Or even, hopefully not, come to a different conclusion about him in a few weeks. It is OK. This is your therapy and your choice.
Thanks Daisy, this brought tears to my eyes. With all that you're going through, and you took the time for such an incredibly thoughtful reply, means so much to me. Thank you, you are always so sweet.
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> As far as his questions, I would have had a heart attack if I'd been asked about my weight. It is an issue with me but I've never brought it up in therapy. I think I've made remarks once or twice about myself but from behind my 10 foot wall at Fort Don't Go There.LOL, I was a bit taken aback by his question, BUT I don't think there are any questions he could ask me that would shock me, or that I wouldn't consider answering. AND, of course I snooped on the web, and tried to find anything out I could about him, which wasn't much. Just one thing really, there was an article that indicated he specialized in working with ppl with eating disorders, which I thought was interesting. I don't have one per se - I eat too much junk, but who doesn't? Also, he does evals. for gastric bypass, which I don't need, not even close. When we were talking about stress and anxiety he asked about exercise, caffeine intake, and diet. He agreed that I couldn't do too much more in the exercise dept., and didn't question my diet when I told him it was fine.
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> I would ask him. My concern would be he has built in ideas about why women do what they do or feel what they feel. I just can't tolerate assumptions like that, even if they might partly be true.I will ask, and if this is the case, and not as I suspect, this might have a great bearing on how things go. I couldn't tolerate that, and I would tell him. My husband and I have been together over 20 years, and he has NEVER said anything about my weight, God bless him!
>In two years my therapist has never asked about menopause or anything else about my cycle. BUT, he is not a CBT therapist either.
Do you think he's CBT? I do have that on my list of Q's to ask him. I wondered when he talked about forming an attachment. Do you do that in CBT? The issue of my cycle/PMS comes up with my p-doc almost every time because my meds are influenced by it. I bring it up, and he's great about it, never asked anything about menopause. He's so kind and thoughtful.
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> Don't ya just hate it that the answer is always, "ask, ask, ask, bring it up, ask." :)
> I'd love to know how he answers, if you want to share.Nope, it doesn't bother me at all because I have SO many questions, comments, and clarifications for him. So much that we probably won't get anything else done. I'll have to ask for another session just to get some work done.
I'll be sure to let you know how it goes. It's Mon. evening, wish it was tody, so I could quit thinking about it!
Jazzy
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