Posted by daisym on June 24, 2005, at 0:30:22
In reply to Re: Why would a T ask these questions?, posted by Jazzed on June 23, 2005, at 22:53:22
I want to (gently) tell you that you don't have to defend or prove to us, your babble family, that your therapist is mostly OK. Or keep defending your choice. Or even, hopefully not, come to a different conclusion about him in a few weeks. It is OK. This is your therapy and your choice. I guess it is sort of like siblings. We can complain about them but heaven help anyone else who tries, even if they are agreeing with us! So feel free to post away about your frustrations or questions, without worrying that you have to balance things so much. Of course we like to hear the good stuff too, so we can smile with you.
As far as his questions, I would have had a heart attack if I'd been asked about my weight. It is an issue with me but I've never brought it up in therapy. I think I've made remarks once or twice about myself but from behind my 10 foot wall at Fort Don't Go There.
I would ask him. My concern would be he has built in ideas about why women do what they do or feel what they feel. I just can't tolerate assumptions like that, even if they might partly be true. They feel so "one size fits all"ish -- and I'd be afraid of pat answers. Sort of like when you are having a bad day and your hubby asks, "is it that time of the month?" (Yes, the bell tolls for you, dear, if you say that ever again!) In two years my therapist has never asked about menopause or anything else about my cycle. BUT, he is not a CBT therapist either.
Don't ya just hate it that the answer is always, "ask, ask, ask, bring it up, ask." :)
I'd love to know how he answers, if you want to share.
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