Posted by Susan47 on June 14, 2005, at 23:45:32
In reply to Re: Love with therapist, posted by Aastra on June 14, 2005, at 20:47:11
It sounds bad, it really does. Therapists.. I think they're different than a lot of other people, just because of what they do I suspect they're vulnerable. I mean, they're alone, working on a one=to-one basis.. I think it's a crazy way to live, really. I suspect some are empathetic people to begin with, and just from what happens to me when I'm with people for long periods of time on a one-to-one, I suspect they start to identify or something.
I don't know, I think if I were you I'd bring this up really frankly with him, really soon, but it's incredibly hard to tell someone you have these thoughts about them, because it just seems like you must be some ego-driven maniac he can just laugh out of the room, if you ever suspected he liked you for yourself, that he saw this lovely person he really liked. I mean, that just seems ridiculous, to feel that way. I don't know. I really empathize. I hated feeling that way about myself, I ended up resenting the hell out of my therapist, blaming him for my feelings of inadequacy. Seeing him made it worse, and worse, and worse. I lost confidence, in the end.. and the only way I gained it back was by playing my little games of pretend.. you know, I pretended stuff I'd be ashamed to admit to.
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