Posted by Akhale51 on April 4, 2008, at 17:08:39
In reply to Re: Do you tell your T about transference? :Akhale, posted by sassyfrancesca on April 4, 2008, at 8:21:11
Well, I have been seeing her for 2-3 years now. We are very close and she is not only my counselor but my hockey coach as well. I have spilled my guts to her about almost everything with the exception of my rush on her. I feel that we are very close. She is very sensitive to my needs and a very sensitive person. But the thing is I am not sure how she would handle the subject of transference. The thing is in the past when tranference became evident to m counselrs they referred me to someone else. I can't bare the thought of that happening to me this time. Plus I am not sure what her policy is in regards to transference. Any advice is welcome.
> > Yea, I know what you mean. My Counselor doesn't remind me of anybody else either. I just have a very intense crush on her. So my defintion of transference is usually something along the lines of the same as the freudian defintion without the person reminding me of someone I knew from my past. What do you think? Should I tell her or not?
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> Hmmmm, I guess it all depends on a lot of things......What kind of a relationship do you have with her? Do you trust her? Do you feel she will handle what you tell her with sensitivity?
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> Unfortunately for me, my t is in love with me, but chooses to not do anything about it. It is excruciating, but as I told him: "I would rather be in pain WITH you than in pain WITHOUT you....we attended the same conference in hawaii last week; I talked to him on the phone but didn't see him (he saw me walking out of a session, but was too far away to say hello)....
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> T's are used to clients having crushes, etc......you are the only one who can decide whether to tell her not. Let me know!
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> Sassy
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> P.S. I belong to "A Most Heartbreaking Love"---support for people in love with their t's.....It's a yahoo group.
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