Posted by pinkeye on May 27, 2005, at 12:55:01
In reply to Re: My T has amazed me and my husband, posted by happyflower on May 27, 2005, at 12:49:41
I would prefer not to depend on my T. I don't know - I might be talking in a little hurt mood.
But it was never ok for me to depend on Ts - maybe not even my ex T. I used to send him emails, but he wouldn't reply right away. It will usually be atleast couple of weeks before he replied. And sometimes months had gone by wihtout no replies. But I had the liberty to write as much as I wanted.. I usually wrote about 2 mails in a month or sometimes more.
But even with that kind of frequency, I find it extremely hard to leave now. I am very hurt and sad and feel rejected.. In a way, I always felt some of it with my ex T.. because he was not replying that much to my emails anyway. So I always used to get hurt.
I would really think twice about depending though - especially, if your T has told you that he doesn;t like dependance. My ex T told me that the whole purpose was to help me develop strength myself.. not to depend on some one. You might want to ask what your T thinks about it. Plus if you are planning to be in therapy for max 3 more months, what is the point in depending anyway? It will take atleast coupel of years to sort out all the feelings and be able to depend and grow and heal.
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