Posted by 10derHeart on May 24, 2005, at 1:09:27
In reply to Re: There Was One Thing Said I Didn't Like At All... » 10derHeart, posted by Tamar on May 23, 2005, at 15:11:11
>>I think you know you need to talk about it with him. And it’ll help you, ultimately, to be able to talk about the other stuff you need to talk about. But it certainly sucks.
(((((10der))))) <<
Yeah, I do know. And I will. I just like to panic/whine/ruminate over it a while here first, then by the time of the next sesion, I'm more ready.
He's a good one, no doubt. I'm just in a sort of an odd place, I think, with an interesting and different wrinkle.
I still miss and hurt over my ex-T. Still email my ex-T. several times a month. Current T. knows and is more than okay with it. Although I rarely, if ever, go much beyond a surface comment with ex-T. about how current therapy is going (that would just be plain wrong, though the temptation is huge...), things do get said. Or mentioned. Or talked around, so to speak. Ex-T's boundaries as an ex-T are occasionally VERY flexible, let's say. (shame on him) But I maintain them for both of us and give him a gentle scolding when I can't/won't talk about something. (He's an enigma to me in the way he does this sometimes.)
Anyway, point is, I see that this unique situation maybe adds some "mix-up" to my relationshiop with my T. Trying to disentangle the powerful feelings for ex-T from the newer, more fragile and not-yet-well-defined ones for this T. Adds a challenging layer, at the very least.
But, I wouldn't change the way things have played out with either of these wonderful T's for anything in the world. Harder for me in some ways, but quite meant to be.
Wow - sorry for all that digression. That just came to me out of left field. Hmmm...
Tamar, may I say I just never tire of your honesty, directness and way of cutting through right to the heart of things? Your sweetness and hugs, too. Really like those a lot. Hope you hang around here for a loooooong time.
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