Posted by shrinking violet on May 21, 2005, at 13:12:13
In reply to Re: re pegasus, dinah » shrinking violet, posted by gardenergirl on May 21, 2005, at 12:57:18
Hi gg,
So then that's all it probably was:
>>"I think that she has been finding her way with you, on how to work with long term clients. And she has made mistakes. I think she's tried different ways of being, from being close to backing off. She seems like she has been struggling to do what's "right", and perhaps it's been a learning process for her. Unfortunately, this learning process seems to have been very confusing and to really hurt you."--So it was just a "T thing." Nothing deeper than that. So I'm just silly and stupid in thinking there was more to it? What do you think GG, seriously? I know it's hard to judge just from my one-sided accounts here, but...is there ANY validation to what I'm feeling? I think in a recent post you responded that she was putting up defenses and hiding behind the therapy to hide how she might really feel, but now you suggest she was just trying different tactics.....Which is it? I know it's possible for a T and client to have a deeper underlying feeling for each other regardless of the therapy alliance (I keep thinking of LG04 and her T), but it's rare. I just wish I knew what my T truly thinks and feels, b/c either way, I'd know. She'd either acknowledge it and I would know I'm not crazy, or she would probably say something similar to what you just did, and I'd have to accept it. But again, how could I be sure what she would tell me would even be true?
I can't believe people actually voluntarily enter therapy, I really don't (no offense or anything...).
Thanks for your input gg.
The "trying not to cry" thing isn't working anymore.... :-(
poster:shrinking violet
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