Posted by Dinah on May 12, 2005, at 16:02:56
In reply to Re: I think I have some serious issues **trigger** » anastasia56, posted by pinkeye on May 12, 2005, at 15:44:36
It would be nice if we had the power to control other people's reactions. Kids especially like to think that if they're good enough, they'll be treated better, because they have no real power to leave or to make things better, so their only power is the illusory power they give themselves.
But no one has that kind of power. Your husband thinks it's ok to hurt someone he supposedly loves when he gets frustrated. Maybe it's cultural, maybe he's just never had to learn differently.
You have no power over him.
You have power over your own life. You can decide what you want for yourself, and more importantly for the kids you might have. I wouldn't want any daughter of mine growing up thinking it's her destiny to be beaten, as long as it's not too "bad".
Most of us here are a bit broken. But it doesn't have to be irrevocable unless you choose it to be. If you throw up your hands and say nothing will ever change, guess what? Nothing will ever change.
It's totally up to you.
I always hate that.
poster:Dinah
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