Posted by Tamar on March 20, 2005, at 19:48:47
In reply to tis been awhile, posted by Jadah on March 20, 2005, at 16:41:58
Gosh, Jadah, that sounds pretty tough. You know he loves you but he can’t give you what you want because he won’t compromise his ethics any more and won’t leave his wife and kids. It doesn’t sound like an easy kind of love. You say he encourages you to date so I was wondering if you are dating people. Clearly you got past his professional boundaries, and you feel you’ve gained a lot from the experience, but has it been therapeutic for you? Can you extrapolate from your experience with him and look for intimacy with other men? I’m happy for you insofar as you’ve found pleasure after abuse. It’s a wonderful thing to overcome some of the pain. Is it possible for you to find pleasure with a man who isn’t married and isn’t your therapist? Please understand, I’m not trying to judge you or him; I just hope your therapy is genuinely therapeutic for you.
Tamar
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