Posted by Susan47 on March 14, 2005, at 10:25:19
In reply to Visit to pdoc (long), posted by daisym on March 12, 2005, at 23:34:06
I read the first and last posts only on your thread, Daisy, and what strikes me the most is the similarity in feeling the need for your therapist, and what your pdoc said about opening up stuff you're not ready for. She's not necessarily wrong, and I don't think you should be angry with her because that would be destructive for you. I moved far too quickly, emotionally, with my last T and he did resent me and he did find me too clingy, and it was disastrous because I ended up dangling out there all alone, trying to deal with stuff that was far too devastating for my capacity to handle it. I ended up calling and using what was available, which was of course his answering machine. Never him. He was never available, and he became less and less so as time went on and I became psychotic. I don't believe he had any idea how to support me properly, and I also believe now that he was afraid to be available because I had moved into an emotional place he couldn't touch, he never even saw me going there, it blindsided him. So in that respect, if that were happening with you, your pdoc would have a very good point.
But I did the moving forward without him, and you're doing it with your therapist, so I think you probably are strong enough to open up to him and deal with this stuff, it's good to know though that your pdoc is aware of the pitfalls of opening up too much too soon. You're very strong and your belief that your therapist can help you will get you through, keep trusting him and I believe you'll do really well Daisy. Also, your therapist isn't finding you clingy and he's not resentful of you at all, I can tell. Believe me, I've been where you don't want to go. You're not there and you're not even headed in that direction so don't worry about it anymore.
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