Posted by LG04 on February 24, 2005, at 17:31:17
In reply to Re: T and Valentine's Day » LG04, posted by LittleGirlLost on February 23, 2005, at 14:45:48
Hi LGL,
how did your meeting with your therapist go? i really understand how hard it is to bring this stuff up. but you say your therapist is experienced and knowledgable, so i bet she'd handle it okay. maybe you can start out just by asking her about transference, what it means, etc.I'm so sorry you were sexually abused. i am sure your therapist will be able to help you with this as well.
your question about my fear that my t's husband will hurt her, yes it's projection. my dad hurt me by having sex with me, so it makes sense from a child's perspective that my dad would hurt my mom while having sex with her. so if i'm projecting "mom" onto my therapist, transferring all my fears there, then i am very scared that "dad" (therapist's husband, who of course i've never met) will hurt "mom" (therapist) while having sex.
i know it seems weird, all this transference and projection stuff. but i can see how it's helpful. if i didn't have transference with my therapist, then i never would have known about these intense fears i have, or figured out their origin.
let me know how things are going,
LG
poster:LG04
thread:458245
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20050218/msgs/462849.html