Posted by daisym on February 12, 2005, at 0:18:49
In reply to is complete honesty essential?, posted by DustBuster on February 11, 2005, at 20:32:35
I agree with everyone else -- you can benefit from therapy if the thing you don't want to talk about isn't the issue you are working on. Basic CBT concepts basically say, the past is the past. Deal with the present.
BUT...it occurs to me that it takes an enormous amount of energy to avoid something and this energy might be best used elsewhere. And the fact that you are worrying about it means it lives below the surface and is present enough to pull at you. So, perhaps instead of telling yourself "never" you could put it "over there" and see if it becomes important at some point to talk about. Sometimes we keep wishing someone would recognize something in us that we just can't bring ourselves to tell. This is what happened with me, in my therapy. I was surprised that it came up at all, and shocked that I actually needed to talk about it.
Is this something really in your past, or is it just so hard to talk about that you get overwhelmed?
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