Posted by Annierose on October 10, 2004, at 7:42:27
In reply to Consultations are wondrous things. :), posted by Dinah on October 10, 2004, at 1:29:42
Yes, I have had a consultation (really a 2nd opinion a few times). I went through a period of wanting to quit. On my own, I got a 2nd opinion.
2nd T told me to flee.
Afterwards I discussed this with my T. My T is psychodynamic and the 2nd T was clearly NOT. My T was a little surprised, but controlled in her reaction. She explained I was comparing apples to oranges. She then referred me to another T. This guy was right out of a 19th century Freud clinic. How could anyone feel comfortable with him as a T? My T is way cooler and hipper. Anyway, he of course explained why I was feeling the need to flee, and encouraged me to stick it out in a very complicated, detailed conversation.
Did these opinions help? Ultimately I am not sure. I think it may have lit a fire. Have my T examine why I was so unhappy with my therapy and progress. A year later I did quit, after another 2nd, and 3rd opinion. However 15 years later, I am back with her, and we are both more grown up and mature. I am getting much more out of the experience than before. And I think she is a much better T. When I brought up my reason for quitting years ago, clearly she was a little uncomfortable. Both of us are really working hard. And I am so happy to be working with her again. I had no therapy in those between years.
I am not sure my little saga has helped answer your question. It's an useful exercise, but it did confuse me. In the end, trust your heart.
If you have any questions, please ask. Annie
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