Posted by mandinka on October 7, 2004, at 19:44:32
In reply to Suic. Feelings /attached to age states? (trigger), posted by daisym on October 7, 2004, at 18:38:52
If you really feel for her then you will get into her emotional shoes and resonate her emotional state. That's one form of countertransference that is the basis of empathy.
2nd possibility: Her stuff brought up on an unconscious level some of your own unprocessed problems. Maybe you should try working through those feelings and see where they will lead you.
3rd possibility. You wrote that you felt stuck and you were trying to get through every day. I don't know if you realize that these are birth metaphors. I know that people who almost died during birth f.e. because of umbilical cord strangulation are much more likely later on to have suicical thoughts - it's a way of reenacting the original trauma. When you get angry do you freeze in impotent rage? What about road rage (feeling stuck in traffic)? Driving is a metaphor of birth and so is elevator riding. Did you ever get stuck in an elevator and flew into panic? Maybe you never learned to swim, because you were afraid of oxygen deprivation? These are just some possible signs of problems during birth and earlier.
Birth and prenatal trauma has a very diffuse but all-encompassing quality. It creates the basis of the way we cope with life and the way we feel in general - hopeless (if our efforts during birth failed) or overly aggressive (if we fought very hard to live and succeeded). A part of you tries later to recreate the trauma situation to find a new, better ending to it. Maybe it wouldn't be a bad idea for you to find out how your birth looked like. Just remember that sometimes even the mother is clueless.
Try reading Arthur Janov and especially William Emerson - he's a specialist on pre and perinatal trauma.
Take care, daisy.
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