Posted by LG04 on August 2, 2004, at 20:05:55
In reply to Re: Anyone have a friend also work with your T?, posted by Dinah on August 2, 2004, at 19:54:45
I wouldn't do it either. I almost did...one of my friends asked me for my therapist's info. and I thought it over and decided it would be okay. My therapist said okay only because I said okay, and also because my friend was more of an acquaintance at the time. But after talking it over more with my therapist, I realized that it would be difficult for me. My therapist said that's totally normal and that it's very hard to share a therapist. So I went with my tail between my legs to my friend and told her I am very sorry but I changed my mind. Luckily she understood. I'm so glad now that I decided against it.
Since then, I wouldn't give anyone I know my therapist's info. I grew comfortable with telling people that I just didn't want to share my therapist. Even now that we are going to terminate, I think it would still be hard.
I have a close friend who is a therapist, and she says that she refuses to take someone if they are close to another one of her client's. It just can cause too many complicationsm and she said she feels it's her job to protect her client and be the one to say no. (unless it's co-therapy like with a spouse, or to bring in a parent for a session together, or something like that). I like her policy...it's like she is willing to be the fall guy and say no so that the client doesn't feel guilty or bad about it.
Hope that helps.
LG
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