Posted by daisym on July 29, 2004, at 13:41:21
In reply to Re: The Experiment Continues, posted by starlight on July 29, 2004, at 11:29:28
>>>I'd probably leave a therapist that said that to me, for fear that he was trying to hit on me or something odd. It is reassuring though, and nice - on one hand I wish I had someone that would say that to me, but on the other hand, I wouldn't know how to take it.
I was really struck by your interpretation...I guess you'd have to know my Therapist but I'd be willing to bet you would NEVER take his concern as hitting on you. He just doesn't come across that way. But I hear what you are saying about that pride thing...it gets in my way all the time. I have always been very independent and very strong. So it is hard for me to let myself ask for and receive support, especially this kind of emotional holding. But as my Therapist loves to point out, being independent isn't working anymore.
I took myself into therapy looking for help with how to cope with my life...so now I have to let myself utilize the help. And part of that is having a therapist who is willing to push past the executive saying, "no, no, I'm fine. I can handle it myself" to the little kid, who is terrified of falling apart. He does it in a way that doesn't make me think that he thinks I'm weak or not self-sufficient. He is very supportive and respectful about all these internal conflicts. He just thinks I shouldn't torture myself in the loneliness.
And usually, I end up being very glad that he pushes.
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