Posted by Racer on July 28, 2004, at 13:03:15
In reply to Re: Sharing insight, posted by Susan47 on July 28, 2004, at 11:31:46
No wonder you felt some connection to my response above -- same sort of issue. The incestuous abuse was traumatic, no doubt about that, but it was really my mother's response to it, her failure to protect me, being told that *I* had to protect *her*, that caused the real problems. And the only real difference on the therapist front is that I've always insisted on a woman, because I know that a man would just bring up a lot of the sexual stuff in ways that would interfere with any good that could come of it.
It always blows me away that there is so much common ground around these things. Maybe it helps just knowing that it really isn't "just me", that others who have experienced such things also feel so many of the same things I was always told were the "wrong" things.
Congratulations! Did you tell your therapist about this insight? Was she pleased? Or, let me ask that a different way, did she tell you how pleased she was and how proud she was of you? I'm sure she was both pleased and proud, even if she didn't tell you directly. Whoohoo! Party for Ms Woolf!
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