Posted by DaisyM on April 10, 2004, at 16:24:20
In reply to Re: Compassion of Convenience, posted by lucy stone on April 10, 2004, at 12:20:10
Adding that sentence would have completely shut me down so I can totally see why you are upset. It is all so confusing. Being someone who really likes rule books, I want to know exactly what exessive is: 2 calls per week? 2 calls per month? Does it have anything to do with how many sessions you've had?
I'm probably not the best person to answer this because it is a HUGE issue for me. I worry all the time about overwhelming my Therapist. I tell myself to stand on my own two feet and deal with it myself. He tells me to call him and when I don't, he is unhappy if he finds out I had a hard time. And of course, I don't want to do therapy wrong either, so if I don't call when I need to, do I get points off? So confusing...
After almost a year, we've developed a pretty good balance. When I'm having a really hard time, he will set up check in calls. That way I'm not tortured about whether to call or not. He also always tells me after we talk on the phone that it was OK. On a few occasions, after particularly hard sessions, he has called me to follow up.
I think you should call if you need to talk to him. And then check it out with him later if it feels weird in anyway. I would also ask, if you don't know, if he charges for phone calls. I remember a thread here about that, it seem to be a 50/50 split of those Therapist who do and don't.
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