Posted by Karen_kay on December 30, 2003, at 19:14:37
In reply to a little background and follow-up, posted by crushedout on December 30, 2003, at 18:53:42
Ok, for starters, why wouldn't you want to know about "the sexuality between us?" I'd at least be curious. I'd take that as a good sign. I mean why avoid it? But, it is up to you. If my therapist made a comment like that, I'd take that as a sign to take my clothes off, but that's just me... Anyway.... This would be a great opportunity to bring that up again, if you're up to it...
As for the CD. Tell her you listened to it and found it to be enjoyable, except that it made you cry (And why did you cry??? Because you love her?? Because it was sweet???) I can only tell you what I'd do in that situation, but I'd drop dead from a heart attack if my therapist gave me a gift. But, if he gave me a CD with a song with lyrics like that I'd call him on it. I'd march into his office and be like "What is this crap? What's with the head games? Are you trying to help me or just trying to mess up my head even more? If you want to meet me for coffee (or something else :) just speak up and I'm there, but don't give me a CD with stupid lyrics like that and try to tell me I might look into it too much. That's just setting me up." It sounds to me like that's what she's doing. Sorry if you get defensive about it, but it sounds like she does have some sort of feelings and she's just setting you up "to look into it too much" so that she can rationalize it in her own head. That's just bad news. I'd at least talk to her about it. I'm not suggesting you have to get a new therapist, but you do need to talk to her.
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