Posted by madison88 on October 6, 2002, at 0:43:27
In reply to Re: crush on therapist, posted by Ginjoint on October 5, 2002, at 19:43:20
I had an unusually strong attachment to my first therapist. I it wasn't sexual (it was a she), but it was just an obssession in general. i never let on, i just pretended to not care about anything to do with her personally. I was devastated when i had to move to go to college and start over with a new therapist. there are advantages to working with somebody you are not so attached to. i found it really hard to talk about negatives about myself with my first therapist, b/c i cared so much about what she thought of me. you are suppose to be able to talk about absolutely anything, b/c the relationship is not a friendship per se. the therapist is suppose to be able to take anything you say, something that won't happen with most friendships/romantic relationships. of course, i couldn't do this with my first therapist b/c i made it more than a theraputic relationship.
it took a long time to stop feeling like i terribly missed her. i should have talked about it w/ my new therapist, but i didn't. i would recommend doing that. i don't especially love my new therapist, but i find i have a lot more freedom to talk b/c i don't care so much about messing up the relationship. i will never work w/ a guy, i know i would really mess that up. i would want him to like me so much more than i want a female therapist to like me. it is hard to explain why. i hope you find a new female therapist that you can talk with openly. this is definately an issue that quite a lot of people in therapy deal with, i think, so i wouldn't think yourself odd or anything b/c of what happened.
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