Posted by Ginjoint on October 5, 2002, at 19:43:20
In reply to crush on therapist, posted by goldfish on October 5, 2002, at 13:44:24
Ouch, Goldfish....that had to be a painful experience for you. I don't have a crush on my pdoc, but I can sure empathize with your feelings about therapy in general. The one-sidedness of it is a big obstacle for me -- I have a VERY hard time trusting someone (as in my therapist) when I'm expected to spill everything, and, well, they aren't. I really fight the vulnerability involved with telling a "stranger" extremely personal things. I am still working to overcome this (I know the long-term benefits outweigh this weirdness), and I know it frustrates my pdoc as well. To her credit, she does open up a bit to me, as best she can, anyway. But you're right, it is a strange relationship...definitely frought with peril. :)
I have to say, I think it was very strong -- and smart -- of you to realize that you couldn't work on the "deeper issues" with this particular therapist. Anxious or not, you should give yourself credit for looking out for yourself. I wish I had some other words of comfort, but just know that someone else understands how freaky the very nature of therapy can be.
Ginjoint
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