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Coming to terms/grieving losses related to illness

Posted by Vintagemama on August 25, 2006, at 22:10:41

Hello...
Today has been a very hard day. This depression and whatever else is going on is impacting everything in my life... marriage dynamics, I'm being fired from my job since I have been unable to work since February and have been given a "deadline" of September 11th (how appropriate) upon which date if I can't be back at my desk with bells on, "an employment decision will be made" (nice to get THAT registered letter while I was still in the hospital!)... we are facing losing our home and so many other losses... and I am beginning to believe that some of these things are going to be more permanent than not, given the cognitive deficits that I can't seem to surmount. (I was a pretty successful computer geek for a long time, and now have to use tech support to do things I could have done half-asleep when I was functional).
I've gone from numb to pasting a smile on and being probably unrealistically positive to an anger that is terribly uncharacteristic of me and I HATE it. Were it not for the tranquilizers I am taking pending the next step of trying Parnate, I don't think I'd be here. My faith seems far away and I wake up every day wondering who this stranger is who has invaded my home and relationships and is stealing my life.

I need help. My insurance company has informed me that benefits for this year are gone since this is a "psychological problem" and each time I had an ECT treatment, they covered it with one of my allowed outpatient visits!!! I can't pay the hospital bills piling up on the desk as it is, and don't know where I can get help dealing with all of this garbage. I saw a book about dealing with the grief of mental illness on Amazon but don't want to spend the money if it's not worthwhile - author is Virginia Lafond.

ANY and all advice appreciated. I'm floundering and there are really no people in my life who understand this - pastor preaches "Are you depressed? You don't need drugs, you need God", relatives nearby have their own issues and/or are elderly and/or ill, husband loves me and I know he's trying, but just not the kind of person who can really be a "listener", nor do I want to tell him how often suicide sounds like a pretty peaceful alternative to dealing with all of this life stuff when I can't think straight. I can't drive right now per psychiatrist and neurologist so that's also an issue.

Thanks for reading and if you have any advice, please, I need it.

Vintagemama


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