Posted by Jost on September 23, 2006, at 12:06:31
In reply to Re: QUESTIONS ABOUT HOW TO COPE AFTER DEATH!!!, posted by Declan on September 12, 2006, at 19:30:21
If you and your grandmother had plans together-- she would want you to have a good future, even without her.
That-- having a good life-- is the best thing you can do for her, even if she isn't physically present. She can be present in the good things you experience-- that she would have wanted for you.
So I would do whatever felt like it was good and meaningful in my life, now-- knowing that she would take pleasure in it--
Grieving is important and valuable-- but after a certain time, the person we've lost would want us to go on-- not forgetting them, but honoring them by the value we can continue to make and find in life.
Jost
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