Posted by JLynn on February 21, 2005, at 1:00:41
Hi all! I'm new here and hope this will be a good place to tell my story-just feel like I need to get it ALL out. I'll try to make it short. So here goes...
January 04 my mom got sick. She was 45 had never been very ill and had no prior health problems, she was a very healthy woman. The dr thought it was a sinus infection and gave antibiotics. It didn't get better. She got so ill she had to go to the ER and they gave more meds. They didn't help either and ended up going back. They finally admitted her into the hospital and ran tests and scans. They finally told her there was a mass on her lung and in her esophugus. They did surgery on the one in the throat and she went through chemo and radiation.
Things got better for a very short time and I guess in my denial I thought maybe she would be OK. She got worse again and they did more scans. The cancer had spread to her brain. The Dr wanted to do radiation on her head. She went to one treatment and stopped. She wanted to come home. She came home very ill and things got worse quickly. She died May 8, 2004 at home while I held her hand.
I handled the funeral and all pretty well considering although now I seem to be going through the greiving process again since maybe I didn't really let myself grieve then. A lot of that has to do with my moms husband (don't like to call him a stepfather). My problem now is I am very angry and can't get past what he has done and continues to do. I knew he cheated on my mom long ago and that he had probably continued. After her death I found out he was seeing someone while she was sick. I moved out of my moms house 3 months after she died. He then moved his girlfriend in (the girlfriend is married to someone else). There is so many reasons this bothers me.
My mom wanted to have a will made and he told her not to worry that she still had plenty of time. Had I known then I would have made sure it was done, but I didn't know until after she died. The house was one that my mom and dad built when I was 5. When my mom remarried he moved in-he had nothing to his name but clothes and a car. My mom worked her whole life for that house. She wanted it to go to my brother. The house and property and 3 cars were in my moms name only. She never had his name put on anything, but by law since they were married he gets half. He talked to a lawyer before she died and thats why he didnt take her to get a will made. I am so bitter. No one has been applied to be executor so nothing has been settled. This means no closure for me. I hate him.
Sorry for rambling, but thanx for letting me get this all out.
poster:JLynn
thread:461129
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