Posted by adagiolover1 on January 30, 2005, at 22:40:03
In reply to Re: Loss of a child...My son, posted by mair on January 30, 2005, at 13:02:43
Mair, thanks for your post. I was intrigued by the story of the woman who raised her grandson. For various reasons.
I know it's important to try to connect to him,(my grandson) but..well, there are no good 'buts'. Right now I am angry at her, his mother, who I have always gotten along with in the past. they were not boy-girl friend when she got pregnant, and the news that she had gotten pregnant was devastating to him, and sent him into a tailspin.
Now, far be it from me to blame the pregnancy...Rob had issues galore growing up the child of an alcoholic.
I mention it I suppose because I find tha tjust recently I want to 'blame' someone else. Have someone else share the 'blame'.
I should look up the Kubler-Ross stuff.....I think there's a stage in grief that is Anger.Here what is most troubling: when I meet (face to face) newly bereaved parents, I am repelled, stunned by their grief, and frankly have no words to say to them. In fact what I want to say, with horror, is My God you are in for the greatest hell you could imagine. and then walk away.
People..so complicated, so fragile.
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