Posted by Aceex on October 3, 2003, at 14:37:38
In reply to Grief over loss of dad and relationship (question), posted by ValerieF on October 3, 2003, at 12:25:36
I am so sorry for everything you have been going through, but it sounds like a separation might be the healthy thing to do. I am not a professional, but in my opinion it seems that your boyfriend is suffering from a severe depression at the least and needs some sort of crisis intervention. His denial is a normal reaction, I find, of most men when they are in a crisis like the loss of a parent. I found this with my own husband who denied that his mother's death had any effect on him at all - yet began to suffer from palpatations and anxiety. It has been 5 years, and he still insists that he has a heart condition (although 3 cardiologists have confirmed his heart is fine) and it is not anxiety.
What I am trying to say is that you need to take care of yourself and he needs to take care of himself. You can not live his life for him. Continue with your therapy, maybe join a bereavement group and work through your losses (your father and your boyfriend).
Know that everything you are feeling is normal and be good to yourself.
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