Posted by finelinebob on August 23, 2006, at 0:41:00
In reply to Why am I weeping?, posted by llrrrpp on August 22, 2006, at 23:03:52
Maybe it's because you're safe and loved, and being safe and loved allows you to let go of all the fears you've had to keep locked down so tight over all the years or else you'd be overwhelmed by them.
But now, being safe and loved, you can start to let go of them. You've survived them. You beat them. They can't hurt you anymore than they already have unless you let them, so just shed one tear for each one and let them go. It may be scary as you unlock them, but let the fear get washed away.
And smile because, being safe and loved, you've won.
Sounds like unconditional love to me, from your husband, or dang near it. Been thinking a lot about that lately myself. It's hard to understand because we live in a society where some quid quo pro is expected. But unconditional means "without conditions". Really. It's a gift truly given, so don't start adding up your "debt" -- there is none. Sounds like you want to give to him in the same way. Love without a scorecard. What a wonderful thing to share.
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