Posted by llrrrpp on July 21, 2006, at 17:05:09
In reply to lol! That's what makes me cross eyed, too! (nm) » Dinah, posted by Racer on July 21, 2006, at 16:22:25
Every compliment you recieve is an opportunity to rewrite your internal script.
I really like that blouse, Racer
Internal monologue: "wow, it must look good. The little mistakes I made don't detract from the overall attractiveness of the blouse"
(racer, my buttonholes are always screwed up too! and don't get me started on Zippers. I mess up hems. I do darts well, and also princess seams, but that's about it!)
You are doing really well on this project (says your professor)
Internal monologue: "Go Racer! It's not perfect yet, because I'm still figuring it out, but I must be on the right track. Keep up the good work!"
Instead of cringing when you receive a compliment, take a moment, pause, and internalize it. take it to heart, and then respond. "Thank you" and smile, because you mean it. Self-confidence is attractive (sexy?) and you won't come off as being arrogant, if this is what you're afraid of.
-ll
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