Posted by Racer on July 20, 2006, at 0:21:50
In reply to Input from others, posted by Dinah on July 19, 2006, at 10:07:37
I take in ALL the criticism, even from people I don't respect, but I don't take in the postives unless they trigger something in my own view.
Man, I'm not expressing that well...
For instance, if someone says, "Wow! You made that shirt? That's great!" I don't take that in, I brush it aside. If someone were to say, "Wow, I really like the way you finished the seams," or "those are very good hand worked buttonholes," that I might take in. But that's because when I sew, I do take pride in finishing the seams, and in making my buttonholes by hand. (Although, frankly, I'm less impressed by my buttonholes. They're not great, although I am proud of taking the time to do them. Hand buttonholes are just better than machine.) So, if a compliment is more specific than general, that I take in.
Oh, and Daisy said that I wrote well, which I took in a bit. I think I write well, although I have doubts about it, and I respect Daisy's knowledge and experience. When she said that, I doubted a little less, and believed a little more. But it certainly wasn't an about face, just a little stronger foundation of belief in my ability.
I don't know -- considering I tend to focus on someone else's experience rather than my own, that's one area where I pretty much ONLY see my own. I know I'm fat, lazy, sloppy, don't try hard enough, settle for third rate work from myself, etc. So, if you say that I'm not those things, it won't come in for me.
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