Posted by Dinah on July 19, 2006, at 10:07:37
To what extent does input from others influence your self esteem? From those you respect, I guess I should add.
Do you keep track of input from people you respect that contradicts your view of yourself? Do you respect them enough to think they might be right?
I think if I get tons of input from lots of different sources that something about me is not right, I'd have to take account of it.
But by the same token, I need to take account of those who tell me nice things about myself.
So, for me, just recently...
I was telling one of my bosses that I want to quit doing such a bad job at work, and so I need to divest myself of some of the work that is more than I can handle. He told me I wasn't doing a bad job at all, I was doing a wonderful job. I respect him enough to think he wouldn't lie, especially about something that is important to him. So I readjusted my statement to that I do a good job once I get to the work, but I'm doing a terrible job getting work done in a timely manner. He had no disagreement with that.
Has anyone else had positive input lately, or not so lately, from someone they respect enough to believe?
poster:Dinah
thread:668238
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