Posted by Dinah on December 10, 2013, at 19:09:43
In reply to Re: Please, posted by Dr. Bob on December 10, 2013, at 18:03:49
I know I'm trying to speak siliconese. But don't you realize that your behavior is causing people who would formerly have been polite to Lou and encouraged others to be polite to Lou, who struggled to have compassion and understanding, to feel completely differently?
Don't you realize that by saying only Lou can hurt others as much as he wants, but shouldn't be asked to stop, you are creating resentment?
Don't you realize that by incrementally allowing Lou to say more and more what is in his heart, you are encouraging him to say things that are in his own best interests to remain unsaid in public? Things that would make it impossible for people to interpret his behavior in a generous way?
Enforcing the civility rules is not just good for the innocent. It's also in the best interests of the very person you're attempting to support by allowing him free rein.
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