Posted by alexandra_k on July 4, 2013, at 22:35:27
In reply to Re: Trying to practice what I've been preaching » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on July 3, 2013, at 9:26:30
i had to look it up.
i feel resentful when people tell me what they think i should do before they have an appropriate grasp on my situation.
so, for instance, people think that yes i should enroll in a course in sport and exercise science. but then it turns out that i waste a year of my time doing a course that is grossly inappropriate for me (given my educational background). or people think that yes i should work on my thesis. but then it turns out that i waste months of extension time (which almost sabotages my prospects for completion) because they didn't understand that in order to make progress i need a quiet space to work and i need that on campus. or when people think that yes physiotherapy is a good course for me. but then it turns out to be grossly inappropriate for me, again. or people think that yes they would be good flatmates for me because really what i most need in the world is to watch tv with them all day and keep them company.
i feel resentful when people waste my time.
i feel resentful when people aren't appropriately respectful of my time. when people think i have (i *should* have) nothing else / better to do with my time than for me to mind them.
i feel resentful when people waste my time getting me to do things they don't need *me* to do.
i feel resentful when people get upset that i won't hang out with them when they have *other* people in their lives who are happy to join them. i feel resentful when people ask me to do x or y or z for them so i take time away from my thesis to do stuff and then i discover that their tv watching buddies could have helped them and the only cost was less tv watched.
it isn't that i think that my goals or projects are more important...
or is it?maybe in a sense i think that actually yes, my goals or projects are.
sorry...
but me getting to work on my thesis for 25 minutes *just is* objectively more valuable than you watching a certain episode of the Simpsons for the 10th or 12th time.
i'm sure Bob has stuff to be doing...
but, no. he should clearly be spending... what? hours? going through all the 'read this and that and the next post and determine civility'. because it is all about the rules and not at all about individual posters just worrying about their own conduct. oh yes, sir-ee.
sure.
i'm sure bob doesn't feel resentful at all.
how would i feel in his position?
i'd probably have bailed years ago.
thanks for still being here bob.
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