Posted by violette on July 22, 2010, at 20:07:54
In reply to Re: unanswered posts, posted by Dr. Bob on July 22, 2010, at 18:52:23
> there are many unanswered posts of people in need....
>
> violette"Be the change you wish to see"
Thanks Bob, but those CBT tricks don't work with me (handing power over to those who are powerless in a situation)....a person who has controls over something-like a forum-using this tactic is basically like handing people a glass of Kool Aid:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Drinking_the_Kool-Aid
"CBT puts more power and control into the hands of the patient. Feeling powerful and in control in itself can be an antidote to depression. Feeling like a powerless victim is a formula for depression."
http://depressiongrief.suite101.com/article.cfm/cognitivebehavioral_therapy_cbt_for_sad
Besides those CBT tactics (which never helped me with depression, BTW), I don't well receive someone to sort of trick me/us into doing what they want...though it could have been well meaning in at least one aspect...
The point was--the lack of privacy afforded here discourages me and others from responding to people and using the forum for what it was intended...actually for what we thought it was for...and marketing has driven and drives people away.
Thanks but no thanks, I'd take my power that comes from within, without having to 'create' it through a thought (brainwashing & Pavlov)--and take it with me to a place where I can be the change I wish to see - where privacy concerns are addressed...as although once a victim in childhood-I am by no means a victim any longer...opportunities and choices are around every corner.
Whether or not you had understood what I had been trying to say, or even listened, I'm sure my posts here give you additional material and Google hits. Nice try, though...it has been somewhat-indirectly though-therapeutic to try to figure you out, Dr. Bob. I'd bet you even quietly chuckle about it sometimes too. :)
http://www.informaworld.com/smpp/658826981-6835643/content~db=all~content=a903248050
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