Posted by Dinah on April 23, 2010, at 11:49:10
In reply to Re: what might have happened, posted by Dr. Bob on April 23, 2010, at 11:02:54
Dr. Bob...
I do understand your desire to be treated with respect. But I also think there's more than one way to express regret. Fayeroe didn't say "I'm sorry" but, in my opinion, her frank expression of her pain and fear and disappointment in how she wished you had responded were more conciliatory and expressive of a wish to restart than many an apology you've found acceptable have been. I really really hoped you would see it that way, even though the words "I'm sorry" weren't contained.
I think, had you responded in kind, a lot of reconciliation could have been achieved. Far more than another block.
Wouldn't it have been more conducive to peace in the long run to simply request that next time anyone with a question of that sort simply ask you with respect and you'll be happy to answer? Or to point out that no one feels all that much like responding politely unless they were addressed with politeness? From a sheer practical standpoint, aside from civility standards.
You *know* I have no problem with the civility guidelines or blocks, even long blocks in some cases. But... An invitation like that doesn't come along all that often. I wish you'd have accepted it. Just as you wished that Faye had accepted your invitation to use the words "I'm sorry."
I have a feeling that a bad precedent wouldn't have been a major threat.
poster:Dinah
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