Posted by Dr. Bob on March 3, 2009, at 4:10:04
In reply to oops sorry, posted by muffled on March 1, 2009, at 23:57:56
> > This discussion has already yielded a couple new ways of doing things.
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> I need to know what the "new things" are.
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> fayeroeI meant:
> It may help if complaints about [deputies] are emailed to me directly and not posted or submitted using the notification system. And if blocks are longer for incivility toward them. So let's make those changes
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> this discussion regarding blocks/math/civility rules has been ongoing for years. So in the best interest of a subject coming up over and over again, how about addressing it.
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> help us address this issue once and for all.
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> Dr. Bob, no you don't trigger me when you are gone, what triggers me is posters I value are suddenly gone in a discuss that you deem inappropriate.I don't think it can be addressed once and for all, I think it needs to keep evolving.
And I didn't mean to imply that I thought my being gone triggered everyone. Different people have different issues. And certainly posters being blocked can be a huge trigger.
> Another new beginning was derailed.
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> rskMaybe derailed, but maybe continuing on another track...
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> My "Bob Pet Peeve List" is topped by pointing out that all the anger at him is really transference. None of it as actually justified by his behavior.
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> BayI didn't mean to imply that it's all transference. Certainly some of it is justified by my behavior.
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> I think that it would be a terrific relief to some of the posters if our "discussion" was a two- way street. I don't believe that it is now.
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> I think that there is fair amount of self-disclosure from the posters when it comes to trying to talk to you about the administration of Babble.
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> It takes two to tango.
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> fayeroeIt isn't a two-way street. I sometimes long to tango with you, and you may sometimes long to tango with me, but my dance with you is different than your dance with each other.
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> I think mayhap the point I was making is that proly lots people are used to punish.
> So in the example the person seriously broke one of her T's rules.
> You'd think for such a serious infraction T woulda dumped her.
> But she didn't.
> She helped soothe the hurt.
> Makes my chest hurt, that she would do this.
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> So I guess we was thinking along the lines of blocks or something but I dunno exactly what the connection is.
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> MMaybe some posters stay because they hope and desire not to be dumped (blocked) for infractions. Hopes and desires like that may be likely to be frustrated. Suspending rules may be tempting, but can have its own complications.
Bob
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