Posted by HappyChaiTea on February 27, 2009, at 21:17:46
In reply to Re: facing realities..., posted by Dr. Bob on February 26, 2009, at 11:03:34
Dr. Bob,
It is fine if you want to quote me, but please keep the entire sentence, to make sure my message is what was intended.
Thanks
> > My psychoanalyst ... has now suggested that my mental health would be better served by not participating here
> >
> > twinleaf
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> > my Pdoc really doesn't want me here.
> >
> > fayeroe
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> > my analyst doesn't give me advise either except to suggest that it might be best not to post here
> >
> > Zeba
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> > My therapist does not want me posting and participating here.
> >
> > pc
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> > My T is one who doesn't want me on here
> >
> > HappyChaiTea
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> > he told me to stay away from Babble
> >
> > Bay
>
> So there's a subgroup of you who stay despite professional advice to leave.
>
> > My psychoanalyst ... feels that the present Babble system ... replicates emotionally unfair and abusive families of origin too closely to be healthy.
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> > We don't really know anyone here as well as we think we do, and our hopes and desires may fill in the gaps too much, and thus set us up for rejection and disappointment.
> >
> > twinleaf
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> Maybe you stay because of hopes and desires you have.
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> > All of these blocks, while appropriate under the present guidelines, were the result of my standing up for a principle I believed in
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> But maybe some hopes and desires are likely to be frustrated here. For example, because I might also stand up for a principle I believe in -- and I have more power here.
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> You may find it less frustrating if you adjust your hopes and desires. I know that's easier said than done. And you may not even want to do that. And even if you do, you may not know in what direction to do so.
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> > we can talk with I statements and all that,(the babble way)
> >
> > They can improve their communications skills.
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> Certainly one option, though it may not feel very exciting, is to work on improving I-statement skills.
>
> Bob
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