Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 22, 2008, at 18:54:09
In reply to Re: Please clarify and/or rephrase » lucie lu, posted by Partlycloudy on December 22, 2008, at 18:30:48
I think it isn't just posters that are leaving but one's that have been here for years. I am even suppose to leave as per my T's recommendations. She has tried so hard for me to feel safe in therapy to talk about how I FEEL but yet when I do that on the boards, I run a high risk of getting blocked.
I really don't know how to say what I said in regards to relationships that aren't all one sided, so I guess I will just say sorry for being uncivil and no my comments don't involve anyone at Babble. I don't know how other Babblers think of me and our friendships, but you know I didn't say ALL my relationships are one sided, just that that seems to be a pattern for me that my T see's and has pointed out to me.
I truly don't understand the I statements, at least a lot of it. If I say I like hotdogs but only with everything on them, wouldn't it be uncivil to say regarding Babble's rules? Because wouldn't people that think only mustard should be on hotdogs feel hurt that I don't think the same way? I just don't get it and I mean that sincerely. I have tried and I am no dummy okay, and I have been here for almost 4 years and it just don't completely sink in. I get blatant uncivilness. But the fine line of details I just don't get.
Doesn't it go both ways too? Because I wasn't trying to be uncivil with my post. But now that I have to reword it, won't I feel put down by that? I really just don't understand the rules here, sincerely I don't. Isn't there something to if someone is seeing themselves in a post that talks about people in general, isn't that their perception of themselves?
Let's say for example, my husband is an wife abuser, and my T says I tend to have relationship with men that are unhealthy. Is that uncivil to the men at Babble? or for example I say that I was abused as a child by my parents, and my T says I should not continue the pattern with my kids. Wouldn't that be uncivil to the parents of Babble, some who may be abusing their kids?That is where I don't get it, it seems like it is okay to some things, but not others. Like I can talk about my T being a jerk, but isn't that uncivil to the T's on the boards going by Babble's rules?
Tell ya what I think, I think we should be able to make our own rules on babble and have a vote. Or at least make the rules simple enough for everyone to understand. I have 3.9 GPA, and high IQ, and I don't get all the rules.
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