Posted by Tabitha on December 11, 2008, at 3:25:55
In reply to communication w/ just words, a challenge OK, posted by muffled on December 10, 2008, at 16:20:09
I guess it's OK to talk about 'escalating' since nobody has gotten in trouble for it yet.
When I see someone escalating, I assume they're wanting space. Why? Because 'escalating' tends to scare people and drive them away. I assume they realize this. In Babble in particular, escalating usually leads quickly to a block. So I suspect that at some level, the person wants to take a break from the group. (Unless of course they're a new poster and really have no idea how things work around here.)
So the last thing I would do when someone is escalating is make an extra effort to connect with them. At that time, they seem to be pushing people away.
Also, I don't think it's good to reward push-away behavior by becoming more and more caring & concerned at that point. To me that's training a person that escalating is a way to get caring and concern. That training isn't going to serve them well in life.
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