Posted by twinleaf on December 10, 2008, at 10:01:36
In reply to Re: the reasons for my post... » twinleaf, posted by Dinah on December 10, 2008, at 7:52:36
Thank you for posting back to me, Dinah. This whole episode is just so sad, starting with SSSS' distress and then gradually spreading through the community, When I read the whole thread over just now, it seemed to concern mainly SSSS' actions and state of mind, and posters' reactions to them. Mostly, people expressed regret, caring and support for her; I did that, too, but I also opened up the question of whether more flexibility and a longer grace period before blocking would have helped SSSS. This thought was not intended as a criticism of any deputies, but rather as a possible way out when such a situation occurs again.. As soon as I offered that thought, I received your post with four individual statements which any reasonable person would interpret as containing criticisms and put-downs.
I regret that I did not ask you if you really meant what you wrote. I assumed that you did, because you have often said that you think over your posts, rewrite them, and sometimes do not even send them if you feel they have not expressed your views adequately. I very much appreciate your posting to me and I feel very, very badly about what happened. If I am honest with myself, I am not going to be able to say truthfully that I wasn't hurt. By the same token, you are not going to feel that you meant anything hurtful by your comments. Let's just close the door permanently on this episode.
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thread:867435
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