Posted by Dinah on July 27, 2008, at 18:53:28
In reply to Re: Ah, there's the pragmatic I lack, posted by toph on July 27, 2008, at 17:11:54
Toph, this *is* an example of what I was talking about. I suppose it could be read as attitude or sarcasm. But it can also be read exactly as it appears on its face. I have no reason to believe that gg meant it as anything but a very gracious statement to me. And perhaps an even more gracious acknowledgment on her part.
Or maybe even as a feeling of hurt at believing herself referred to as having tone? I think were I to use quotation marks, it would likely be a mark of the fact that I felt hurt.
If you aren't sure how to read it, perhaps you can very politely ask? You might find out that there is merely a misunderstanding.
As I've said, I've been on both sides of a misunderstanding. It isn't fun either way. People may think that the civility rules don't allow a frank discussion and reflection of what one person hears to make sure it is what the other person means to say. I don't think that's true. I've had misunderstandings that I've cleared up on board. It may be easier in chat, where it's real time, but it is possible on board. It just requires that we use a certain amount of restraint and tact.
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