Posted by sunnydays on August 12, 2007, at 21:31:49
In reply to Re: I cannot post here ever again, posted by Fivefires on August 12, 2007, at 19:59:44
> I wanted to reply to you personally sunnydays, but you don't have babble feature on.
**** That's a privacy thing for me. While I like everyone here, there's no interaction I wish to have with anyone that could not be said on the boards. I know it is sometimes used to send supportive messages that are more intimate, but even though I know it is anonymous, I just don't feel safe using it.
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> I have some friends here who know me better than others. If I could talk to you alone sunnydays, you might understand me better.**** I am in chat sometimes if you catch me there. But I don't feel comfortable with the idea of Babblemail so I don't use it. Maybe I'm old-fashioned in that way, but I've seen lots of problems fed into by Babblemail here, so I prefer to stick with what can be said on the boards.
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> I don't understand why some people don't have their babble feature on.(?) I'm always thinkin', 'Do they like have a bigger and better life than me or something'? I know, great self-esteem, huh? Does anyone else ever wonder about this? It's like the more a person hides, the more you want to see them!**** I don't think I'm hiding. I do have a life outside of Babble, but that has nothing to do with not using Babblemail because the time I spend on the Internet could easily be used to reply to Babblemails. I don't hide the important things about myself here, I don't think. Things like where I live, my name, other things that I think might be identifying I don't want anyone to know and they wouldn't find out if I were to use to Babblemail anyway.
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> I just saw a situation here where two people I care about were upset and tried to help.*** I appreciate that. I didn't say you weren't trying to help.
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> I remember thinking why didn't the poster say 'I feel hurt or violated' and thinking this person is really angry and attacking the previous poster.**** Yes, and I was just saying that I thought you were making an assumption there about the poster's intentions. Who can know if that assumption is true except that poster?
I can't recall if poster said 'I feel angry'. I don't know where 'I assumed' for sure, but 'I've been called on the carpet' for doing this in my life b4. Maybe you'd include my post and I could better see my error.
**** Well, I don't think we're allowed to quote from other posts. I do believe the poster said she felt angry at some point. I don't want to go through a blow by blow of your post. I don't think it's helpful to get into something like that.
> When I speak w/ someone outside babble, I'll either ask them to be discreet, or I'll say I don't care if the whole world knows. How could you be sure the latter wasn't the situation?
**** Well.... Ozland seemed not to have wanted the entire world to know judging from her reaction. So that's how I know she didn't say she cared if the whole world knew. She may or may not have said specifically to be discreet, but there are some things that I think that shouldn't have to be specifically requested for.
> Of course not, but there's kind of a gray line there. Do we assume everything outside not be brought in?**** Yes, I would think so. I think that there is always a reason people wouldn't post something on the boards, and that unless the poster discloses something from outside on the boards themselves, it should remain off the boards. They may feel comfortable telling you something personally, but not the thousands of people that have access to it through Google.
I think when we talk about things that are really private, it's sometimes important to add that we wish the person to be discreet. It might be ez to forget for some people now and then. I've probably done it and not even realized it.
**** Everyone probably has at some point. But I think that everyone should be particularly careful when dealing with privacy issues and the Internet and it should be a thought not far from people's minds when they are posting and communicating here. Fortunately or not, all of our words on the boards are archived on Google. I think a lot of things shouldn't require someone to add they wish discretion... it should be a blanket assumption here. Lack of discretion should be the exception, I would think.
I care about privacy more now than when I first started here, because of situations like this occurring. Now, I'm so worried my child*en will read all of this when I'm 6foot under, they'll all come and stomp on me!
**** I can't tell whether or not you are joking here. Privacy is certainly an important issue to many people, though, so I'm glad you care about it.
> I was truly just sharing an idea for everyone involved, including myself.
*** And you're perfectly entitled to do so.
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