Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on April 18, 2007, at 15:08:29
In reply to Re: babblers be warned » LlurpsieNoodle, posted by one woman cine on April 18, 2007, at 14:35:10
> >>>I'd like to propose that information shared in Babblemails should not be passed on to others via babblemails. That doing so compromises others' safety.
OneWomanCine,
several months ago, I decided not to get involved in changing babble policy. I found that it was just too frustrating. That was when Dr. Bob actually checked the admin board on a fairly regular basis, too. I decided that there was no point to me trying to change the situations when I *personally* was not affected.Now I have been personally affected. Am I scared? not really, because I have the tools to deal with this babblemess.
So, I make a proposal to extend a rule that was designed to keep our personal info out of the public eye. The rule I would like to extend is that personal information (specifically information that one has asked the other interloctur NOT to pass on) not be passed on.
I found out that my personal information had been passed on. I don't know why anyone would do such a thing. There are so many motivations ranging from an innocent slip of the tongue to something much more malignant.
A simple apology would make me feel a lot better.
I have tried to elicit an apology before. But there was denial of the offense. Sometimes people don't realize the consequences of their actions until they are laid out crystal clear. Sometimes people don't realize that despite their best intentions they caused the other person to hurt. Sometimes it takes time to allow the anger of being accused of something to subside to recognition that one has participated in a hurtful behavior.
For my part, I would have liked to keep this grievance off the boards. I have tried different ways of dealing with this on my own, and using the resources that babble has for when one poster hurts another.
Here I am. airing grievances. yep.
but it's not too late. A simple apology would go a long way to my feeling better about the whole situation. There may be other people who deserve an apology too, as has come to my attention recently.
poster:LlurpsieNoodle
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