Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on April 18, 2007, at 13:44:22
In reply to Re: one posting name per poster? » one woman cine, posted by Phillipa on April 18, 2007, at 12:17:47
> Thing that has come up before is that if you google outside to the internet your posting name in all probability you will come up I know my posts have many times. Love Phillipa
Which is why I never sign my posts with my real name, or have any information on the rest of the internet which connects LlurpsieNoodle to her real life identity.
Which is why I don't give out personal information to those I do not trust.
Which is why personal information one knows (or even *suspects*) about a particular poster should never be shared unless that poster is comfortable with it.
Which is why babblemails are superior to e-mails. Because e-mails cannot be monitored or verified by Dr. Bob for civil content.
However. Babblemails ARE protected arenas and when bad things happen via babblemails they should be reported to the deputies and Dr. Bob. Failing to report something that was improper or uncivil that happened in a babblemail might give a poster the idea that it's appropriate to do certain behaviors again and again.
I think it's wonderful that when I google my name I get to see some of my old posts. I might have even gotten to see my blog, where I tried to save some of the better babble posts that I wrote. I recently had to delete my blog because of too much curiosity about who this Llurpsie person is. I have no problem with anyone wanting to know more about Llurpsie. What I have a problem with is when people try to get more information out of Llurpsie concerning her real life identity.
The thing about keeping a blog though is that it requires a lot of upkeep. I haven't updated my blog in many months. Blogs are like the wild west of the internet. That's why I would never post anything on a blog that would compromise my IRL identity. I would never post something on a blog that I wasn't perfectly happy with the entire world wide web reading.
Similarly, I would never post anything on psycho-babble that I would be comfortable with the whole world wide web reading.
However, occasionally one ends up finding support from getting to know another babbler better. That's why the babblemail function is so nice. Because I can get to know the other person better, and they can get to know me better and that might help us support one another better.
However, it's inappropriate to share that information that is contained in a private babblemail with the public world wide web via psychobabble channels.
What I would be interested in knowing is whether a private babblemail communication from person A to person B should be communicated to person C, after person A makes it very clear that person B should not share person A's personal communication.
Does that constitue a blockable offense? What about if person B has a pattern of this behavior. Don't worry LlurpsieNoodle. You can trust me [not to post this on psychobabble]. Can I trust person B not to pass this information onto person C? What about person D? E? F?
I recently went to a lecture about social networks. There are some people who form nodes in social networks. That means that they share information with many people. Many people may tell them things. Sometimes they tell them things because they provide useful information or support. Sometimes they tell them things because NOT to tell them something might lead to great misunderstandings. These people have information about a lot of people. They may also have reciprocal relationships, in which they share information back to someone else. That is, person A tells person B something personal. Then person B tells person A something personal. This is a very nice thing when that something personal is used to provide support.
One of the things that happens with people who know and are known by a lot of people is that they develop many reciprocal relationships. They may share personal information *about other people* with those people that they feel like sharing it with. This is all very fine in the real world. When I call 911, I expect the operator to pass on the information to the fire department that my house is on fire
In babble-world however, there is absolutely no justification for person B to tell others information about another person.
There are several reasons why person B should not tell person C private information about person A.
1) it compromises the trust that persons A and B have between one another
2) it compromises an agreement that babblemailers make via their participation in babblemail: that information shared in babblemail- no matter how innocent or trivial or irreleant or urgent or important - should never be posted on psychobabble boards.
3) if person A WANTS person C to know something personal about himself, then person A has the opportunity to tell persona C himself. There is no need for facilitation, no matter how "nice" it may feel to connect people who share something [personal and private] in common.
4) it compromises the trust that others have in person B. Once person B starts telling others personal information about person A, why would person B be trusted to keep anybody's information confidential?
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